Posted by: Arden Compton | April 7, 2009

Porn addiction – thong trigger

This morning I visited with a gentleman who has made significant progress with his pornography addiction.  It used to be out of control in his life.  He has gone five months with very little pornography pull in his life.  He had one minor relapse about a month or so ago.  I say minor because he went to a web-site where girls were dressed in a revealing way, but he didn’t allow himself to go to genuinely pornographic sites after that.  We quickly got him back on track.  This morning he mentioned he had seen a news article about a school teacher who had done modeling, and one of the pictures apparently was of her in a thong.  He had mentioned this was a weakness for him in the past  – girls in thongs.  We had addressed it, but there was still something there pulling at him.  I had him focus in his mind this news article, and he said the pull to go to it was around a 3 or 4 out of ten.  I coached him through a round of tapping on this, and the desire went down to a one.  He said there was still something about the thong, so we went through a round of tapping on “the thong trigger”.  After that he said the pull hadn’t changed, there was still a little something there.  He said that somehow thongs were fascinating because they allowed you to see pretty much everything, but they were still considered clothing.  So, I had him say the phrase, “It’s OK to look at girls in thongs because they are still wearing clothing.”  On a gut level he said that landed true.  So, I coached him through a round of tapping on this rationalizing and justifying belief, bringing in correct affirmations that he was only deceiving himself, it wasn’t OK to look at her, thongs aren’t really clothing, and it is a sad statement about this school teacher that she is posing in a thong.  She is someone’s daughter, someone’s sister, it is a tragedy she is in this picture.  As we tapped through this, the desire dropped to a zero.  But there was still a hint of curiosity when he thought about the news lead.  So we tapped on the curiosity, and once we were done with that, he felt no desire to see the article, but to move past it quickly.

Once we identified what his system was using to make his wrong choice seem right, it aligned with the truth, and all inappropriate desire was gone.  A powerful process, a liberating process.

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