Posted by: Arden Compton | May 4, 2009

Porn & Masturbation Addiction – that which you focus on multiplies in your life.

The content of this post assumes you have some knowledge of EFT.   I encourage you to visit the video tabs and other information at the top of the blog about how EFT works.  That way the blog posts much more helpful for you.

 

I was recently visiting with a young man who had made significant progress, but occasionally had days where he felt a pull for pornography and masturbation in his life.  As I visited with him, he mentioned things he was doing to give him strength to change.  He mentioned reading scriptures, prayer, tapping with EFT.  But he said even when he read his scriptures just before he showered, he would still feel a desire to masturbate in the shower.  As we discussed this further, what we found was that just before he showered his would read his scriptures (good thing, right?) so he wouldn’t have a desire to masturbate.  As you examine this process, what is he focusing on while he is reading his scriptures?  Is he focusing on gaining enlightenment or feeling the Spirit of God in his life?  No, he is focusing on his masturbation problem.

There is an important principle here: that which we focus on multiplies in our life.  So, even though he was doing a good thing, he was doing it with his focus on his problem.  So I encouraged him to put his focus on what he wanted to experience as he read scriptures, prayed, and used EFT.  Read to gain enlightenment, pray to express gratitude and feel God’s love.  As we put our focus on how we want our lives to be, instead of how we don’t want our lives to be, we move in the right direction.

After we had this discussion, I asked him if he visualized taking a shower if there would be any “fear of masturbating”?  He indicated he felt that fear at about a 2/10.  So, we went through EFT initially focusing on that fear, but then following up with positive affirmations of what he wanted his life to be like.  While tapping, I had him say, “I see myself getting out of the shower feeling good about myself, grateful for the good in my life, anticipating with hope and optimism the activities of the day.”  If you see yourself getting out of the shower feeling that way, there is no way you were masturbating in the shower.  So, without mentioning masturbation, we created a new picture that eliminated masturbation as an option.  These same principles apply to pornography as well (and any other problem in our life).  I asked him again to visualize taking a shower to see if he felt any fear of masturbating in the shower, and he indicated he felt none at all.  He felt empowered,  hopeful and optimistic.

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