Posted by: Arden Compton | May 6, 2009

Pornography Addiction, Empowering the Addict

The content of this post assumes you have some knowledge of EFT. I encourage you to visit the video tabs and other information at the top of the blog about how EFT works. That will help the blog posts much more helpful for you.

One of my goals as I coach pornography addicts to help them learn how to use EFT on their own, I want to empower them with a tool they can use at any time on their own. I don’t want them to need me, I want to be able to do as much good on their own as they can. I encourage them to try and use EFT as triggers to cravings come up. If there is a craving for pornography, that means there is an underlying aspect of the problem that hasn’t been addressed yet. Once that has been identified and addressed with EFT or one of the Christ-centered visualizations, then the craving is gone. I have seen this over and over.

An example of how EFT can empower the addict was seen with a client I recently visited with who has been pornography free for several months. The last time we connected was two weeks prior to this, and he indicated he felt a little less resolve in his determination to stay away from pornography. We addressed the stress level in his life and a number of other possible factors, but didn’t seem to hit the nail on the head. I wanted to follow up with him quickly, because I felt he wasn’t as stable as he should be, but he indicated he wanted to go two weeks before our next visit. When we met again he indicated he had felt what he called “background noise”, a pull to pornography in the back of his mind that persisted for several days after our last visit. Then he found himself on youtube looking up something appropriate, and while there he clicked on a tab for the “most viewed” videos. One of them had a picture of a girl on it, and this triggered him even more. However, he did not go to the video, he stopped and thought about what was happening. He remembered that when he viewed pornography regularly the videos on youtube he went to the most were “home made” videos. People taping themselves. He said somehow it felt like it was OK if they were have consensual sex and it wasn’t something produced by holly wood. Once he remembered this, he immediately began using EFT to clear this rationalization and trigger. He said he did about 9 nine rounds of tapping on this, and completely cleared it. Once he did this, he said the “background noise” was gone and hasn’t come back, he is feeling great.

This is just an example of how EFT can empower the addict to clear their triggers instead of endlessly wrestling with them. It also illustrates if there is a underlying aspect of the problem that drives a person towards pornography, whether it is a belief, an emotion, a need, a trigger, whatever it is, it is just a matter of time before it is manifest. When it does manifest and the person feels a craving, that doesn’t mean EFT wore off, it means another trigger to the problem still needs to be addressed. Once we get them all, and we generally do get them all surprisingly fast, all desire for pornography is gone! This is very exciting for the former addict, to really be free of that pull in their life. Then they really are free to have a happy, normal, productive life with healthy relationships and deep spirituality. What a priceless blessing to have!

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