Posted by: Arden Compton | May 23, 2009

For addicts, Pornography and Masturbation seem to be the solution

One aspect of pornography and masturbation addiction (as well as any other addiction) is that the addict views their behavior or substance as a solution to their problems. This is how they deal with, or escape, some negative aspect of their life.  It may be the solution if they are stressed, or  to feelings of rejection or inadequacy. For many it is the solution to what they perceive as a boring, unsuccessful life.  The list can go on and on.  One reason pornography is addictive is because it seems to be a solution, for a period of time it seems to help, but in the end it isn’t the solution, it is a mirage that ends up actually hurting them.  It is like buying an empty bag of potato chips that just has a few crumbs in it.  You can smell the chips, you can run your finger along the inside of the bag and lick your finger to get a taste of it, so it seems like you got some, but in the end you aren’t satisfied.  So it is with pornography, any need that is being met by pornography isn’t being met.  Yet the addict keeps going back for more because they were led to believe or feel that the need had been met.  So they go back again, and again, and again – but it is an empty bag of chips every time!  

The remainder of the post assumes you have some knowledge of EFT.  If not, please review the tabs at the top of the blog to introduce you to the EFT process.

Anyone struggling with pornography addiction needs to identify what they are using it as a solution for.  As they focus on this while tapping through the EFT process, their system aligns with the truth.  The truth is that not only is pornography and masturbation not a solution, it is now a big problem itself that is impeding many aspects of their life.  After focusing on this it is important to include a positive round of tapping bringing in appropriate ideas that would be a genuine solution to their problem.  

A word of caution. There are times that the problem pornography has been the solution to is so significant that it must be addressed before the cravings for pornography will budge.  If the perception is that I need this to survive stress, to simply take away what has been the solution before an alternative solution has been provided could leave addict in a state of extreme anxiety.  Sometimes they don’t know how to cope or survive without pornography as their solution.  Some need to learn new life skills and coping strategies. However, there is hope, because in the end they can learn these new skills, have their needs met without pornography and masturbation, and be much happier.  Most of those I have coached through this process have made this transition relatively easily and were happy to be free of the pull of pornography in their life and move on with positive appropriate choices and activities.

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