Posted by: Arden Compton | September 25, 2013

What Are You Looking For?

There is a scripture in the New Testament that says, “…seek and ye shall find…” (Matthew 7:7). So, what are you seeking, what are you looking for? Whatever it is, you will likely find it. Often we don’t even know what we are looking for, many don’t have conscious awareness of what matters the most to them. If you look for good in other people, you will find it. If you look for the bad in other people, you will find it. If you look for things to be grateful for, you will find them. If you look for things that are wrong in the world, you will find them. If you look for the downhill path of least resistance, the easiest way to pleasure, you will find it, and all the misery that comes with it. If you seek for a mountain top, you can find it, and all the joy that comes with it.

When a person engages in pornography, what is he looking for? Often he is hoping to find a mountain top while climbing lower into the valley. He is hoping to find happiness while engaging in shameful activity. He is seeking to escape feelings of stress, worry, rejections, loneliness, despair, and other unhappy feelings, without really changing the thoughts and actions producing these unhappy feelings. When we feel these types of negative emotions, it is human nature that we point to our circumstances, or another person, and blame the circumstance or person for our stress and unhappiness. Yet being happy is a personal choice, no one can make you unhappy without your permission. If our circumstances are responsible for our unhappiness, then we are a victim to our circumstances, and the only way to be happy is to change our circumstances. Thus people turn to pornography, seeking to bring something into their circumstances that will make them happy. But it never works. All the things that created their unhappiness are still there, and now with pornography they have another problem. It is like having a bad, infected cut, and trying to fix it by looking at pornography. It does nothing to deal with the problem, in fact the problem continues to get worse while you are wasting time looking at pornography.

Look to God and live. Take the uncommon path and seek for excellence in life. Be willing to take the difficult path that leads to the mountain top. Be willing to really deal with your challenges, and change what you need to change so you can be happy. Accept that you are responsible for your life. It is your responses to your circumstances, your thoughts and actions that have lead you to where you are. Since you are responsible for where you are, you can change where you are. You will probably need some help along the way, because we all do. None of us are meant to go through life flying solo. Seek for the best that is in you. Be true to the best that is in you. Look for real solutions to your challenges. With God’s help, all things are possible. Fill you life with thoughts and actions that elevate you and those in your circle of influence. If you are struggling with pornography and want to break free so you can live a happy, purposeful, productive life, please contact me. I would love to help!

Here is a short video that teaches many things; one of which is that we need to seek first the kingdom of God. As we do, the other things that we need will be provided. Take a few minutes to watch this. I found it inspiring, I hope you do too!

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  1. Thank you for providing a Christian perspective to pornography. The damage from pornography is extensive and wide spread, crawling into every vulnerable mind. The effects are extensive, ruining many lives and marriages.

  2. Reblogged this on My Counseling Solutions and commented:
    Please accept this gift – a Christian perspective on pornography. The damage from pornography is extensive and wide spread, weaving into many vulnerable minds. The effects of pornography are extensive, ruining many lives and marriages.


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