Posted by: Arden Compton | May 15, 2015

The Core of The Problem

I find that as I coach people with addiction, the addiction is just the surface symptom, not the real problem. Like leaves on a tree, but not the root of the tree.

What is at the core of the problem is a little different for each person, but there is also common ground in every addiction.

Often the person is using it to escape – escape pain, sadness, loneliness, failure, hurt, rejection, and other painful emotions. Sometimes they just wan to escape their life. Life can be hard, disappointing, discouraging, etc., and an addict often just wants something that feels good. Their addiction seems to soothe the pain, but ultimately creates a problem with a life all of its own that just makes things worse. Turning to addictive substances/behaviors with to deal with the pain of life is like fixing a flat tire by letting the air out of another tire; everything just gets worse.

Some turn to addiction for idle pleasure. They unwittingly try something because it seems “fun.” This then becomes their way of having “fun”, but ultimately it can cause them to loose everything good in their life, and that isn’t fun. Feelings of shame and guilt become part of the problem. Some are plagued with shame and guilt the only relief they can find is to engage in the addiction again… which of course just adds more shame and guilt. Fear of relapsing is also a subtle saboteur because the more you fear a relapse, the more you focus on relapse, which makes it more likely that you will relapse. All of these elements of addiction can be easily cleared with what I call Christ Centered EFT.

As I mention in other places on my blog, once a person begins the pattern of addiction, he unwittingly invites a whole host of dark entities into his life that want to quickly enslave him in the problem. This is a very real thing that needs to be addressed before a person can ever break free from the cycle of addiction.

Another core element is that a person with an addiction gains a false identity. They define themselves as an “addict”. This also becomes a huge problem, because it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Conventional thinking will tell us that “once an addict always an addict”, but that would limit the Atonement of Jesus Christ. With Christ’s help, all things are possible. As I have worked with many people over the years, I have seen all the above factors mentioned dissolve in the light of truth. It takes some time to work through it all, but everyone with an addiction can be free. It doesn’t have to be a life long problem!

If I can help in any way, feel free to contact me. God bless you!

email me at: wholesomelives@mac.com

 

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    • Hi, I will be happy to visit with you on phone, Skype, or FaceTime. How much a person pays depends on their ability to pay. We can discuss it and come up with an amount that works for both of us.

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